That’s a pretty sad song Clay Aiken and Ray Boltz are singing. Their “coming out” is seen by many as a cause for celebration. But my wife and I are not celebrating. We have both repented of this sexual sin. We belong to Jesus Christ, and we rely on His Word.
When I was thirty eight years old, I was informed my father had AIDS. I discovered that he had had a secret life for decades. Once having learned this, much of his misery, his desperate drinking, and his fear and anger began to make sense. My father sobered up in his later years, went to a psychiatrist who convinced him homosexuality was normal, and died of AIDS in the late 1980s. He was in a coma the last three days, and I hold to the hope that Christ came to him.
While I hadn’t known about my father’s secret sin, he never knew about mine. In the early 1990s, I traveled to New York, prepared to fully commit myself to a lifestyle I never did feel right about. I could not seem to escape it. It was a demonic dimension of drag queens, transsexual bars, and drug and alcohol drenched nightclubs. While I am not purposely trying to provoke anyone, neither am I going to deny there is something very strong and very evil behind our nation’s ever-escalating celebration of sexual perversion.
The Lord in His mercy sent a Christian couple to the shelter where I was staying. They knew exactly what I was up to, and ministered powerfully to me. For years the Lord helped me as I fought this thing.
Until now, I have given my testimony and told how the Lord delivered me from being addicted to alcohol, heroin, and life on the streets. I have always been ashamed of the sexual sin that I have committed, and the enemy has used this as a weapon. So I have stayed silent, fearing rejection from my fellow believers.
My wife has waited patiently for me. “Hurry up,” she says, “let’s get on with it.” There is hope in Christ, and she is not ashamed. Time is short—and how times have changed. People are growing up being told that any kind of sexual sin is perfectly normal. Homosexuality and other offenses unto God are celebrated. We are truly in the time spoken about in Isaiah 5:20: Woe to those who call evil good, and good evil; Who substitute darkness for light and light for darkness; Who substitute bitter for sweet and sweet for bitter.
As His people, there must be no backing down. Homosexuality is sin, and all the sit-coms and pro-gay movies in the world cannot change that. Sin is sin, and it is appalling how some Christians ignore unmarried heterosexuals who attend church but blatantly live together. Know anybody like this?
Despite the world’s celebration of homosexuality, many do not want to be in such bondage. Here are some blunt but very encouraging words. According to 1 Corinthians 6:9-11:
Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God. Such were some of you; but you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and in the Spirit of our God.
I don’t have all the answers. But I know the One who does.
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Thank you for sharing with us how the weakness of all our flesh can be overcome by the power of God. I have had wonderful opportunities helping those who struggle with homosexuality come to Christ and leave the gay lifestyle. I believe the homosexual community should be viewed as a great mission field and the best missionary/ evangelists will be those, like you, who have been set free in Christ and understand the homosexual struggle the best. You will have the greatest impact and effectiveness. I am greatly encouraged! Click here to reply to this post
I will pray
Posted On: 10/15/08 06:05:38 PM
Age 43, NJ
I will pray for your daughter who is choosing to live a gay lifestyle and for you. Don't give up praying! There are many testimonies of people who have lived that lifestyle for years and who have now changed through Jesus Christ. They are now on fire for the Lord! Check out their testimonies at these sites: www.janetboynesministries.com/,www.venusmagazine.org,www.theformers.com/,www.crossministry.org. Be encouraged, you are not alone in this battle. Click here to reply to this post
Thank you!
Posted On: 10/09/08 08:43:37 PM
Age 43, NJ
Thank you for sharing your testimony and for letting others know that one does not have to stay in sexual sin and that Jesus Christ is the answer. May God continue to give you the courage to speak out on how he rescue you from the pit of hell and may he bathe you in His love. Embrace the knowledge that you are forgiven, as we all are who accept His wonderful gift of salvation. May you NEVER be ashamed of the gospel of Christ when telling your story and may God use you to bring glory and honor to His name. May others who are trapped in sexual sin be inspired to come out of it because of your testimony and may they receive Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior. God bless you day by day as you remain true to The One who has all the answers! Click here to reply to this post
Holy God, Compassionate God
Posted On: 10/15/08 09:26:07 AM
Age 55, OR
Thank you so much. He is an awesome God, and we can stand on His Word. Your prayer has blessed me, and when the Lord decides to use me, He will make it clear.
It is great to know the Holy God! Click here to reply to this post
I have a gay child
Posted On: 10/08/08 05:33:57 AM
Age 54, AL
I continue to pray for her, she is now 36 years old and has not accomplished anything in her life, although she has a good heart that will not get her to heaven. I have tried to tell her this, I request prayers for my daughter that the devil now has a hold on that she may come to know the Lord Jesus in her life. Click here to reply to this post
Your Kid and the Lord
Posted On: 10/15/08 09:29:46 AM
Age 55, OR
Yes, I will pray. I have other relatives in this sin as well. I am asking the Lord to give you strength, to show you how to specifically pray, and to give your daughter the gift of repentance and salvation. Click here to reply to this post
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